Friendship within the industry.
People keep asking me about my friends. “How can you be friends when you´re both models?” “Are you REALLY friends?” “Don´t you get jealous of eachother/competitive?” “Why are you friends?`” etcetc
These questions makes me sad, and the fact that I keep seeing so many situations that create these questions makes me even sadder.
I realize that maybe we´re all different culturally. And since I get to meet people from so many different parts of the world, I get to see many different ways of interacting with eachother. Maybe things a Swedish person would never say, do or ask of/to a person they consider a friend, someone from another part of this world would not consider strange to say or do. No way is the “right” way. But there´s definitely some ways that are wrong.
I would not be where I am today in life, or within my modelling and performing, without my friends.
And who are my friends? my fellow models, performers, stylists, makeup artists, designers and photographers. I don´t have many friends that aren´t in the industry. I was never accepted among other kids growing up, and it wasn´t until I got involved in this “world” that I met people I could relate to and connect with.
I keep meeting people who are troubled, who are fighting with others and have so much negativity surrounding themselves. Who let others bring them down, and who try to bring down others around them. People do this, it´s natural to feel jealousy, to compete, to talk about others behind their backs. Gossip has been around since.. forever (?) and is somewhat part of being human. And I feel we all accept and know that people will always talk about us, and to us, about eachoter. It´s not necessary such a bad thing either. As long as we keep it somewhat friendly. But when we start to feel so insecure that we have to take it further and indulge in rumors without talking to the person involved directly, that is when things go bad. Negativity breeds negativity. We all know this. You´re the only person who can change your surroundings.
Bullying is everywhere, from school to work. The people who bully are usually the people who are unhappy and insecure.
Never have I met so many insecure people as when I started modelling. They´re not bad people, none of them, they´re just a bit broken. I myself am to, but instead of taking this to a bad place and try to bring others around me down so they´ll be at my “level” of broken, I´ve collected strenght in the knowledge that all these beautiful, talented people around me are also insecure and feel lonely, just as I do. And I have tried to find ways to connect with these strange souls, that obviously match mine.
Because honestly, where will you ever find likeminded people, if not here, in this industry?
I´m friends with models etc, because they´re like me. They´re creative, interesting, crazy, fun, intelligent, beautiful. I enjoy surrounding myself with them all.
As I´ve grown older, I´ve started to feel more secure within myself. I don´t take any of this to serious. Yes I´d love to be on that cover, or model for that designer. But I can also be happy for my friend who got the job instead. because we´re so different, and I know it´s not personal. It´s not an attack on me that she got the job, it´s a compliment to her and her hard work and talent.
I see opportunity in moments that makes me sad, frustrated or jealous, I try to learn from them and see how I can evolve as a person. I try to never put the blame elsewhere and I try to be proud of my friends instead of jealous of them. Proud to know they´re in my life and care for me as well. These talented people.
Of course I don´t always succeed, I´m human just as everyone else and would never think of myself as stronger than anyone else, I´m just trying to explain how I do it, keep myself happy and content, that is.
I just don´t see any reason to why we should not be friends, why we should not aim for this and be happy for eachother. As said, we´re all so very different, we have unique looks and unique personalities. But we also have so many things in common and can learn so much from eachother. But if we push people away in fear of getting hurt or fear of not being accepted, jealousy or whatnot, we´re only denying ourselves a world of knowledge.
I consider my greatest achievement in life so far to be the friends I´ve made. I´ve learned so much from them all. They´ve taken me places in the world I´d never seen without them and this industry, they´ve helped me push myself further, they´ve made me more beautiful, smarter, happier. I´d never trade a friend for a cover of a magazine.
Of course I sometimes don´t get along with someone. But instead of focusing my energy on this person, I simply let go. I would not try to change anyone, they need to do this for themselves if they want to. That being said, sometimes people do not realize the way they act, and I try to keep this in mind as well. I try to be fare, try to be open and talk to people I have issues with directly to them. Of course this is hard, and scary, and sometimes I just leave it. But I´d prefer if people would tell me if they had issues with me, so i try to do the same.
I just want everyone to remind themselves every now and then of whom they would want to be. Be someone you yourself would like to be friends with. someone you would like to work with, model with.
All of my best friends are models and photographers. They´re all annoyingly beautiful, intelligent and talented people. And sometimes they´re just plain annoying. And this is how I would want them to be. Real, raw, imperfect, crazy, spontaneous, driven, ambitious, gorgeous, annoying, lovely people.
I salute all my gorgeous friends! Here you see SOME of the awesome people I have in my life :) ( unfortunally I could only show 10 photos in this post, otherwise there would´ve been even more)
Amazing Calamity Amelie and I shot by Steve Prue in Las vegas 2012
I admire Amelie for her strength. She has more than most, She´s been through so much and she takes care of herself. She´s also very intelligent and engaged in so much more than her modelling. She´s KICK ASS ;)
Steve is also a very kick ass guy, fun and talented :)
Next we have Sister Sinister and I shot by Me-Chiel backstage at Dominatrix when we both were nominated for Miss Fetish Europe ( Susanna won) , wearing Virose Affar latex, my own brand!
Susanna is, just as me, from the north! She´s also been through so much and I admire how strong and independent she is. She´s so gorgeous and still so humble and adorable. She´s such a tiny girl who always manages to look like an amazon just by the strength in her eyes in all her photos!
Me-Chiel is a lovely and fun guy ! :)
Then there´s me and Alexander. Alex is a true artist and such a talented photographer. But he´s not only that to me. He´s a true friend. He always listens and tells me what he thinks, straight up. He´s intelligent and sometimes I have no idea what the hell he´s talking about. He cares for his friends and hugs me a lot. He lets me know he cares for me all the time and makes me challenge myself on a deeper level than most people. I owe him a lot!
Me and Ruby True shot by Julian M Kilsby , wearing Lady Lucie latex.
makeup by Roseanna Velin.
I´ve known Ruby for quite some time but since she lives far away I don´t get to see her very often. Somehow we´ve still managed to become lasting friends and I´m very happy for it. Ruby is such a driven girl. She has so many ideas and is always fun to work with, she´s creative and inspiring! On top of that she´s one of the sweetest people I´ve met. Always calm, always cool.
Lady Lucie, or Lucie, is also one of the awesome people I know and meet up with as often as I can and have known for years. She´s a truly talented designer and a gorgeous woman and someone I consider a friend even though we don´t see eachother often.
And then we have me and Albin shot by the ever so talented Adrian Buckmaster. Albin is wearing Virose Affair latex.
As some may know, me and Albin were a couple for about 1.5 years. I met him during a very rough time in my life. I was very sad and he helped me get back to a happier me. He restored my faith in men and love and friendship. We fell out of love, but I love him very much as a friend. He´s one of the most genuine, kind and intelligent earthlings I´ve ever met.
Tea Time , Insanitea , And myself, shot by Joakim Jonsson. Makeup Jessica Lundberg
Tea is one of those aliens whose not only gorgeous without even trying, but also mature way beyond her years, and so much smarter than I´ll ever be. She is a student and therefor I don´t get to see her even close to as much as I would like to right now. But when she finishes school I will make sure to be around her more. Maybe she´ll infect me with some of her awesomeness. She also enjoys tea and dinosaurs. Enough said.
Joakim and Jessica are a sweet couple from north Sweden who always create magic together! Cannot wait to work with them again this summer!
Me and Ulorin Vex shot by Allan Amato, Venus Wept , wearing Ego Assasin latex and Cara Crass hats
Ulorin is an amazing model and artist. She´s a chameleon and I feel inspired by her and Allans work all the time. They´re also the sweetest couple in the world and insanely nice. I remember the first time I met them, they were both so quiet and seemed so shy, but as soon as we went out partying they showed their true colours! So fun, so talented, a star couple!!
Cara is super nice and makes amazing hats!
Me and Ophelia Overdose shot by Marcus G wearing Lady Lucie latex, styled by Ophelia.
Ophelia is another great talent, She not only models, but does hair, costumes, makeup and retouching like a GOD! There´s no limit to this girls talents. And then on top of all of that, she´s one of those people who is just genuinely sweet! I cannot imagine one evil word ever coming out of this girls mouth. And she always has a naughty little glitter in her eyes when I meet her. Adorable!
Marcus is a great photographer and a super sweet guy!
And we´ve already talked about awesome Lucie!
Miss Miranda and I shot by talented Chris Ayres for amazing Fabulously Fetish.
Miranda and I are close. We have been friends for some time now. She´s as silly as me and loves food maybe even more than I do! We´ve modeled and performed together a lot and we connect on many levels. She is a talented artist, a very intelligent girl and a great model and performer. She´s also very down to earth and fun and I love that about her.
And so, finally, we have me and Miss LouLou shot by the ever so talented and lovely Josefine Jonsson photo for our very own brand Virose Affair latex.
Miss LouLou is my secret lover. We have become close and I feel so much love for this girl. She´s stupidly gorgeous and I wanna write with a marker all over her face sometimes because it´s just not fare! She´s not only a talented girl who learned the art of designing all by herself, and then taught me as well, she´s mature way beyond her barely 20 something years, she´s clever and fun and we always have a great time together. I´m very proud to call her my friend.
These are obviously not all of my amazing friends, I have so many more that I care for and would love to write about ALL of them but there´s just not room in this post. I need to send some extra love to my extra special friend Tifa tho, she means A LOT to me, she´s awesome on all levels and we´re gonna shoot together asap, because I just realized recently that she and I only shot together once, ages ago! here´s her site; https://www.facebook.com/TifaDeLeone?fref=ts
and Also my hot friend Evilyn Frantic who is adorable, talented and such a sweetheart. She took me in and taught me fire and I feel like she is a true friend and I miss her a lot since she´s moved to Berlin. https://www.facebook.com/evilynfrantic?fref=ts
I could go on forever. So I´m just gonna stop there. I hope noone feels forgotten. You´re not! Kisses to you all.
I love Ellem so much. I am extremely honoured to have been included in this post, and to be able to call her my friend.